Reframing Thoughts About the End of the Semester

The end of the semester is an incredibly busy, stressful time for students, researchers, and educators. If you’re a graduate student, you’re likely at least two of those things. This means that work is piling on, stress is compounding, and negative thoughts are running amok.

While reshaping these thoughts aren’t going to change the amount of work have to do, they can improve your attitude, up your productivity, and make this time of year suck just a little bit less.

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Academia and the Failure to Address Mental Health Until Its Too Late

Grad school is really tough and sharing the tough times can be really helpful. Hopefully our solidarity helps us through it. 

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On Being a Sensitive Person in the Cold, Cruel Working World

I take a deep breath. “Assume good intent,” I think to myself, furiously. I try to think of all the possible, good, helpful reasons my boss said That Thing, that thing that made me feel like the biggest imposter on the face of the planet. Negative thoughts abound, but–let’s not get into those.

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“Sorry, this is a conversation for MEN only.”

Someone said this to me yesterday. I walked into the graduate student lounge because I heard what sounded like a heated conversation. I asked, “What’s going on?” The response I got: “Sorry, this is a conversation for men only.” They meant it as a joke, and some people may think I’m overreacting by getting upset about it. Here is why it isn’t funny. Continue reading ““Sorry, this is a conversation for MEN only.””

10 men and a woman sit in a philosophy class…

… and discuss the ethics about lying about being a virgin to a lover.

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What the Kavanaugh Controversy Has Taught Me

I always knew people didn’t believe women who accuse powerful men of sexual assault. I always knew that women who come forward are villianized and drug through the mud. I always knew that people make excuses for the actions of accused men.

But something else happened to me during this round of accusations: I realized that what I always suspected is most definitely true.

I would not be believed either.

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Why Being Vulnerable With Your Advisors is the Right Thing to Do

I am struggling. And, until a few days ago, the fact that I was struggling was struggling–especially that I was visibly struggling–was making me struggle that much more. It was a vicious cycle that I found myself in, until I finally broke.

“The thing about a spiral is, if you follow inward, it never actually ends. It just keeps tightening, infinitely.” – John Green, Turtles All the Way Down

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